I had a doula birth this weekend. This family was having their second baby; I was with them during the hospital birth of their first daughter almost two years ago. This time they planned a homebirth with our community midwife (whom I love).
I was struck by this couple's groundedness during their first birth. Mom labored for about 5 hours, and then had her baby, with no interventions or medications. She never complained, even when it was within her rights to do so. She never said, "This hurts," or "I want this to be over," or "It's hard." She did not utter one complaint during the whole birth. It really got me thinking: There are people out there who never complain; they just deal with what life offers them and move through it. What a lesson for someone like me.
After their baby's birth, Mom started losing a lot of blood. Her placenta would not release and come out. Because of this, her uterus could not clamp down and involute, the process which normally stops the full-force of that bleeding. Her midwife tried quite a few tricks before she had to call her supervisory physician for direction. Now, I don't think she really needed "direction," but the way the laws work here, she had to inform him of the situation and see what he recommended. They discussed manually removing the placenta, and the doc agreed the midwife could try -- that would keep him home for the time being (it was after midnight).
♥ four young boys and a boy dog (offspring)